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exponential change

People who know little about this subject must think that transgender people are coming out of the woodwork at a pace that to them is akin to a chosen lifestyle change. The truth is that transgender people are coming out in numbers that are actually beginning to reflect reality. They are slowly proving that gender identity is indeed a spectrum albeit one which weighs heavily in favour of the binary status quo. Yes we are anomalies but we are more than real.

Let’s remember that social conditioning plays a big part in our behavioural patterns and we don’t want to rock the boat. Many of us are still in hiding and conforming in order to keep marriages and other relationships intact.

An analogy to what we are witnessing might be discovering just how many people are into an alternative sex lifestyle who would not ordinarily admit to it. They don’t need to because no one sees it so we could be forgiven for thinking that everyone has heteronormative sex in the missionary position. Being trans is a little harder to conceal.

Still we have been in hiding for millennia and have only surfaced when our social environment permitted it; otherwise we were in permanent or partial hiding.

By the time I understood all this I was in my late 40’s but the world of today is much more aware than when I was young.

Every time the bar moves forward it cannot be rescinded and the progress continues. The difference is that the change of the last 5 years has been exponential compared to the previous 200 and that can only be viewed as a positive thing.




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  1. Fully agree with you! It's truly amazing how much progress has been made recently. Sure, there's lots more to come but I look forward to it.

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