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our gender core

We are born, the doctor looks at our genitals and we are assigned a gender identity.

The formative years are then spent learning how to behave and do the things appropriate for your birth sex. Not all of us want to follow instruction but most of us reluctantly do.

We don’t know how gender identity is actually acquired but we know now that it resides in the brain and not in the sexual plumbing and is likely a combination of nature and nurture. Why it is wholly or partially reversed in some people is a complete and total mystery but it makes sense that this should happen.

I mentioned some posts ago how it should be able to predict transgenderism simply on the basis of the variability of nature and how it abhors perfection and uniformity. The fact that some brains are bi-gendered or gender reversed should then not be surprising and yet for many people this is an inconceivable idea; for them the gender binary should be represented by two uniform, static and immovable monoliths. While this may be an appealing idea it is actually not possible because nothing in nature is so wholly perfect.

Until this reality is accepted, transgender and transsexual people will continue to have an uphill battle for acceptance because those who argue for an origin based on mental illness or sexual depravity will fan the flames of doubt. They may not be basing themselves on anything concrete but there will always be a captive audience willing to entertain their rhetoric until science conclusively puts an end to their theories.

For the rest of the post I will quote directly from Felix Conrad's writing:

"...think how easy it is to socialize a transgender infant. Out of pure instinct the kid presents himself to his parents dressed as a girl (this is a common experience of crossdreamers). The parents tell him that this is not appropriate because he is a ‘boy’. The nature of a child is not to seek difference but to ‘fit in’ and this is even more pronounced with their peers. Therefore, think of the infant logic…

◾ Mummy says I’m a boy
◾ Teacher calls me a boy
◾ Other kids call me a boy
◾ I have short hair and willy of a boy
◾ Ipso facto logicus… I’m a fucking boy!

I would bet – though we will never know – that at that ipso facto logicus moment – there is literally a part of the brain that gets colored in and a sticker put on it that says ‘boy’. He has now self-identified as a boy, so to his conscious mind he is… a boy. However, there is one part of a human that no amount of socialization can erase. Society can make you feel guilty about it… you can feel guilty about it… but sexuality and reproduction are too important for the species to permit a program rewrite. As we have seen with the gay community… if you love men you love men and no amount of electric shocks, injections, therapies and prejudice can change that.

This is exactly the same for our transgender kid. He has successfully identified as a boy and is living as such… but when it comes to his sexuality no amount of socialization can remove his female instinct. Yes, he will be able to have sex with women, yes, he may be attracted to women… but if he is on his own… fantasizing… he will never fantasize about having a penis and penetrating women… he will always fantasize in some way, shape or form… as female. It’s true that it comes through all sorts of filters and that this desire will channel itself in some unusual ways… but I repeat… there is a mass of male socialization and biology which it has to pass through.

So, if a man, who identifies as a man, always imagines himself as a woman in his sexual fantasies… then we can say that in one sense, he is crossing gender. But in another he is not… because he was born with a female gender core and might well identify as female later on in life as many ‘autogynephiliacs’ do (once repression and socialization have been eroded.)"





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  1. Hi Joanna,

    I've been writing lately about nature vs. nurture on my blog here: http://tgguide.com/message/blogs/entry/1718-nature-vs-nurture-nature-scores/

    It's hard to be certain, isn't it? I am starting to think of it like a vector. There is a direction that points toward a gender and over time and experience its magnitude keeps increasing until it's undeniable.

    Emma

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    1. Hi Emma I am absolutely convinced that it is a combination of the two with the predisposition present being affected by parenting factors. I will go and check out your link!

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