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sticking to the black and white

Religious conservatives have the same problem that I used to: they cannot see past of how things should be versus how they are and the world for them is a series of absolutes.

Religious (and for that matter political) dogma is by its intrinsic nature rooted in black and white thinking since it is all about aligning oneself to unflinching principles. If you fall outside of this box you are disobeying its demands. This is why the people most susceptible to becoming dogmatic tend not to be overly intellectual since excessive questioning tends to breed dissent.

North Carolina (which I mentioned the other day) is not the only breeding ground for religious conservatism. There are other states in the Union as well as other places in the world. In Canada we have the province of Alberta as being the place where the highest concentration of conservative voters resides.

The real world does not operate on black and white principles and is more likely to be messy and replete with greys. Nature operates in odd and wonderful ways and surprises us with anomalies and exceptions which only throw curve balls at people who can’t see past their nose.

I victimized myself by my own ingestion of unflinching black and white dogma and fought against my own nature as hard as I could. To undo all of that influence took many years.

It was worth the effort.


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