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Autogynephilia theory supporters call anyone who does not acknowledge their invented condition “deniers”.

I'm sorry but we already know that cross gender arousal exists and always has existed.

In fact, it existed long before this pseudoscientific term was coined but the simple reason many of us don’t acknowledge the validity of this so called "theory" is because it associates the desire to transition exclusively with sexual arousal and nothing else. In other words, it negates that there is such thing as a transgender identity.

At this point I am going to assume these people think we are stupid.

It cannot be put in simpler terms.

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  1. On any given topic there are individuals whose thinking is the personification of fast-acting concrete. The notion of considering a thought from various vantage points before drawing a conclusion is simply alien to them. Seemingly, objectivity isn't in their DNA.

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  2. It's unfortunate but true Katie and there are self interests involved in promoting this quackery I'm afraid. Better people have gone before in this field of research and yet failed to come up with this conclusion namely Hirschfeld and Benjamin to name the most prominent.

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  3. I suspect the quackery (nice word) is a masquerade of science for their prejudice against something they cannot understand nor accept. As if, since they can't tolerate transgender they must therefore establish rhetoric that denies it.

    The worst part of their position is the hurt it causes people who are in the early stages of their own learning about themselves, when they are absorbing everything they can, perhaps already afraid and ashamed, and thus further marginalized and hurt, possibly for years or decades.

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  4. There is a lot of truth in what you say Emma. There has been an attempt to marginalise transgender people and those who push in this direction have used the work of Blanchard as reinforcement. It's not science but it is packaged to appear that way until you open the wrapper and see nothing there. When I was struggling this work almost had me fooled for a while and it only added to my self blame that this is something I might have caused.

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  5. I wonder, have you seen this: I Am A Girl! - Ik ben een meisje!: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TXpViPHnT3U

    When we see videos like this it's so clear that she was simply born transgender. She's lovely, I'm sure you'll agree.

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  6. Emma there are people in this world that were clearly born with the wrong plumbing no question.

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