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what people like us used to do

One of the ways I have worked on managing my dysphoria has been to allow myself the dignity to define myself. If I am a unique creation then I have nothing to change other than perhaps improving my personality flaws (which N would quite handily be able to point out).

For example, if it helps you to think of yourself as a woman disguising herself as a man to earn a living and that works for you then that is what you should do. One can only imagine what people like us had to do 150 years ago or more when surgery was not even within the realm of possibility. They lived with their dysphoria and used whatever methods they could to manage it.

A number of posts back I referred to Harry Benjamin's chapter on the non surgical treatment of transsexualism in his landmark book in which he proposed methods which are still sanctioned by WPATH. The essential message there was to find a way to bridge a disconnect which only seems to worsen if ignored.

As recently as a few months back I was considering going back to speak to a gender therapist but then a few days before I cancelled the appointment. My original thinking was that it was going to be an update session where I would discuss where I am today versus where I was a few years ago. But then I realized I was the only person who knew what needed doing and ultimately no one could guide me.



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  1. Honestly, Joanna, I feel so lucky and grateful to live at a time when we have blogs and resources such as yours. I grew up around the time that Christine Jorgensen became so well known. Can you imagine how strong she was to do what she did, so singlehandedly? I cannot. And before that unless you were an American Indoan or a Samoan, or maybe others, who already appreciated and integrated trans people in their societies, well, you were in a bad place.

    Emma

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    1. Christine's Jorgensen's dysphoria was likely off the charts and at the highest level of the Benjamin scale. There are those people who will do what needs to be done in order to lead happy lives. But yes she was indeed a brave woman and from what I have seen from interviews with her, an intelligent and charming one.

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