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breaking down barriers

Increasingly there are people out there who don’t feel comfortable following the old gender rules any longer and are doing as they please. This doesn’t just apply to transgender people but to everyone.

Most of the stereotypes have been broken. Men perform tasks and responsibilities traditionally reserved for women and vice versa and people are freer than ever to choose the gender rules that best applies to them.

Men are not afraid to wear jewelry or a pink shirt and young teen boys can regularly be spotted wearing two earrings in their lobes. Girls join boys’ sports teams and wear pretty much what they please. Stereotypical jobs historically performed by one gender are getting harder and harder to find.

Living the way we were before was stifling and limiting. It was also denying some people the right to do something they loved by virtue of the sex they were born as which is completely ludicrous.

For those people who still have trouble getting with the program it’s a bit late to complain because that ship has already sailed.

Welcome to the 21st century.


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