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of unrest and truth

There is unrest over transgender people and most of it is coming from deeply conservative pockets of society where the notion of not fitting perfectly within a prescribed binary does sit well.

The problem is that many of these people are not well educated and tend to see things like homosexuality or being transgender as a conscious choice as well as an abomination before God. Some are even the types that, half a century ago, would go to church on Sunday and yet would have little trouble denying a black person the right to sit on the same bus or drink from the same water fountain.

In the southern United States it took a great deal of bloodshed to finally settle things and give some semblance of dignity to African Americans.

Our population is somewhat smaller and more fragile. We are not well organized or as united amongst ourselves so we cling to the LGBT umbrella for support even if it does not fit us entirely well. Without their assistance however, we would clearly be far worse off.

People fear what they do not comprehend or relate to so they invent explanations that suit their vision of how things should be. This applies even to so called academics like the Blanchardians who have created narratives to fill in the blanks where real and conclusive data should reside. Some of this is undoubtedly driven by personal and ideological agendas.

The truth cannot be altered but it can be omitted or twisted.

At some point, it always rises to the surface like oil floating on top of water and that is something that I am waiting to see because I know it’s inevitably coming.


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If being transgender were exclusively a problem of aberrant sexuality, then I would seem to be an exception to the rule.

To date I have lived my life like a choir boy and have had low libido throughout. I have yet to ever see a porn film and both my ex-wife and ex-girlfriend complained about my lack of sex drive. I also knew I was different from a very young age.

This is why the accusation that male to female transgender persons attracted to women are perverts doesn’t hold much water with me. I was mortified when I hit puberty and realized that my desire to be female had taken on sexual overtones and I ended up, like most of you, repeatedly throwing things in the bin as a repudiation. In fact, accepting that my sexuality has been permanently impacted was the hardest pill to swallow in my journey to become a fully realized transgender person.

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