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Cyndi Lauper is doing country music days and she chose education instead of not coming to North Carolina in protest over their discriminatory bathroom use legislation. Here is an excerpt from a recent interview:

Unlike Bruce Springsteen and others, you chose not to cancel your June concert in Raleigh, North Carolina despite your opposition over an anti-LGBT law passed by the state recently. Instead, you announced all profits are to be donated to a LGBT charity there. What was your thinking?

Fear is fear. And education is the way. Educate people on the facts and how to protect their civil rights; that there’s all kinds of people in the world and room for all of us. I lived through the civil rights period, I’m still living through the women’s rights period, because obviously all our rights are being stripped, one by one. So I felt that we could go down to North Carolina and teach people how to help themselves and each other – and also at the venue where we were playing we insisted on a transgender bathroom. That’s going to be there forever.

Are you looking for other artists to speak out?

I can’t speak for anyone else. I’m a friend and family member [to transgender people] so where I come from, you don’t allow somebody else to hurt your friend or family member. You don’t allow people to strip other people’s civil rights. In America everyone is a freaking immigrant. Everyone, including Donald Trump. Unless he has some Native American action going on. They can try to change the facts and try to rewrite history and try to lie through their teeth, but they can’t shove that down my throat. Because I don’t have amnesia. Knowledge is power … I don’t know about you, but there was always a unisex bathroom in the studios where I worked. Nobody gave a hoot.

What really bothered me was the fact that they passed a law that would try and make it difficult to have anti-discrimination built. Because once you take that step, you’re playing a dangerous game. And you never know when that discrimination is going to turn toward you


  1. Excellent, perfect. Indeed, NC, Indiana, and similar states are learning that we have more power than they think and we truly own and occupy the moral high ground. We are undeniable, human, and real.

  2. Girls just gotta have fun.
    I applaud her approach. spreading understand and education is the best way of gaining acceptance.

    1. she certainly speaks her mind which I very much respect and like


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