If you read the entire excerpt I featured from Lynn Conway's website, you will have noted that she very much advocates you go your own way. There are no hard and fast rules here and your objective should be to deal with your dysphoria and whatever works. In this way she is very much an advocate of Harry Benjamin's ideas.
The good news for the rest of us is that in the current climate you only need react in a level consummate with your situation. Be happy and proud of who you are regardless of your standing on the spectrum and never view a full transition as a goal but only as a possibility. The goal is internal peace and stability and nothing else.
Perhaps full, partial or social transition is for you or maybe dressing once a month works. You get to decide and define what you need. You are not dysphoric you say? Fine then dress to your heart's content if that gives you pleasure.
Thinking this way will secure and embolden you because people don't need to know what it's like to be you they just need to respect you. In that spirit worry more about being yourself than anything else.
You'll be glad you did.