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time to settle this

As expected the whole bathroom debate has turned into something bigger. This is no longer about allowing 0.3% of the population to pee but more about fundamentalists drawing a line in the sand against the Obama administration.

Remember these are the kind of people who think homosexuality is a choice and a sin against God and they don't think much better of transgender or transsexual people. The actions of the federal government are getting their backs up and they are ready to fight. Not surprisingly it's states like North Carolina, Texas and Oklahoma leading the charge because this is wholesome family value, GOP-friendly territory.

Ultimately these states will lose just as they lost in the civil war over emmancipation of African American slaves but I suspect it will take a while.

We are now seeing poorly educated people storming into Target stores yelling that they don't want their daughters or wives molested and even genetic women getting kicked out of women's bathrooms because they are taken for transgender women.

While we could decry that we could have left well enough alone, I think its better that this gain the national spotlight and get resolved. There were enough incidents out there to warrant a national policy.

Let's face it, it's the transgender people who need protecting and not the other way around and even if you can't educate those who will not listen you can enforce it through legislative protection. There is no precedent for transgender people molesting anyone in public bathrooms and this discrmination cannot be permitted on that principle alone.

Of course, it's easy to mock ignorant people and the Daily Show makes a field day of it.

http://www.advocate.com/transgender/2016/5/20/trevor-noah-goes-transgender-bathroom-predator-myth


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