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Transgender people are everywhere in the media now and while this means greater exposure it also means opening up ourselves further as targets of derision. In the end it’s probably better that we are out there than not.

North Carolina’s controversial bathroom bill has now seen the federal US government considering suing the state over infringement of human rights. Those people who worry about women being assaulted by a transgender person have never known one personally and, if they did, they would understand that all we want is to be accepted and to be as safe as the woman in the next stall. That still hasn’t prevented the crazies from trying stunts like dressing up and trying to use the ladies’ bathroom in order to make a point. Thankfully they are being viewed as just publicity stunts and are backfiring.

The next few years will be about normalizing things and as people realize that we don’t have horns and breathe fire. Many will undoubtedly come to grudgingly respect us if not entirely find us appealing.

Most of you over 50 remember what it was like for us in the dark ages. We had no internet and thought you were the only crazy in town. Technology has changed everything and we are stronger by virtue of our connections.

Now we are mobilizing in a way that makes some people cringe. Those on the far right, who pine to turn back the clock to the last century, don’t like their gender politics to be messed with and feminists decry our infringement into women’s spaces. Transgender people have thrown a monkey wrench into things simply by asking for the same basic rights that others have except that granting them involves rebalancing the power that is inherent in the notion of gender.

All this fuss just for wanting to be our genuine selves and not be persecuted for it.

Presumably we are being asked to not be seen as well as not heard but it’s a bit late for that now. The genie is out of the bottle.


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  1. Yes, indeed, the genie is out. I'll be 60 next week and certainly understand what you said. In the past, furtively trying to find and read anything about what I was experiencing. Absorbing like a sponge, anything, including the stuff that today we know is total crap. I think that added a lot to deal with.

    Our younger sisters and brothers are lucky indeed that they were born into a somewhat more accepting world with access to so much more and better information. But it's still a struggle for sure.

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  2. yes the young today have it better but its not too late for us. Have a great birthday!

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