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now its anorexia...

The Federalist keeps trying and for that you have to give them credit.

If it’s not trotting out Walt Heyer its now comparing being transgender with having anorexia nervosa. Yes the condition where you slowly starve yourself to death if people don’t get you to treatment.

Moira Fleming who has suffered from this condition herself suggests we treat the dysphoria like the mental illness which makes the trans person look in the mirror and hate their “wrong” body the same way that an anorexic thinks they’re fine instead of looking emaciated. Her point goes back to the popular mantra “just because you think you’re woman and fix all your parts doesn’t mean you are one”.

For me this misses the point because the treatment that works is always the correct one. This means that if a transition saves a life then it is as much correct as giving food to the anorexic. Ms. Fleming is actually more concerned about the legalistic and biological aspects of what defines a woman which doesn’t really interest me all that much.

I am more interested in preventing the suffering of people with gender dysphoria.

If a young or older person transitions and their life is better why does it have to bother people like Ms. Fleming quite so much? but then those who write for periodicals like the Federalist are conservatives and of course this issue rubs their rhubarb the wrong way.

What makes a man or a woman is actually not as obvious as Ms. Fleming would like to believe but don’t try to tell that to people who prefer to think in black and white. Which must make it that much more disappointing for the folks at the Federalist that gender dysphoria is a recognized medical condition.

Remember how I always say here that people should stick to subjects they know something about before making judgements? Well this is one of those times and Ms. Fleming might want to stick to writing about anorexia.

http://thefederalist.com/2016/06/27/why-is-transgender-an-identity-but-anorexia-a-disorder/

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