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the gap begins to close

When I was growing up we had no latitude in expressing gender in any other way than what was expected of us. Boys and girls had very defined gender roles they were to follow. In today’s world that is beginning to change and people with gender dysphoria are seeing other possibilities for themselves.

Androphilic transsexuals have always had a more logical if not easy path to transition since their gender identity and orientation align but gynephilics (certainly of my generation) chose to fight and conform until the dam broke later in life.

What we are seeing today is the age of transition gap between gynephilics and androphilics closing. This means that gynephilics are starting to see that dealing with their dysphoria can include the option of transition instead of suppression. They are thinking past the traditional role expected of them and choosing a different path where they can live as a lesbian woman rather than live a lie.

They are all over YouTube hiding in plain sight.

Therefore the old predictable model of late-transitioning gynephilic versus early-transitioning androphilic may be slowly disappearing.

Most of us who grew up in the 1960’s and 70’s invested a great deal of energy in trying to fulfill the male role. This means that it’s not an obvious way back for those who us who may want to transition later in life.

This is why dealing with your dysphoria earlier in life is always the preferable option.

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