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The repentance of Diamond Dee

Diamond Dee makes me think a little of Walt Heyer. No their stories are not identical but neither was really transgender.

When you watch this video you won’t likely recognize yourself in it. Diamond had a sexual addiction problem so severe that he ended up having gender reassignment surgery without even actually suffering from any gender dysphoria whatsoever. I am hard pressed to even make the connection between the two.

Like Mr. Heyer, he was ushered through the system by people who clearly were not up to the task of determining whether this was a patient fit for such a procedure.

Diamond understands this and now wants to help others not make the same mistake.

The unfortunate thing in all this is that people hungry to discredit actual transgender people will pounce on this case along with Mr. Heyer’s and decry the insanity of it all.

However if anything Diamond’s case proves that there are all kinds of people in this world who will do all kinds of things without the proper reflection.



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  1. Well, you're correct, I don't see myself in him - thankfully. I admit I only watched the first 5-6 minutes but that's enough. His rationalizations ("I was only 17", raging hormones, five marriages "the last one was a nut") are interesting coming from someone who is evidently in his early 60s. Maybe I need to see the rest of it? I hope his case is unusual even for those who transition and regret it later.

    To your point that "people hungry to discredit actual transgender people will pounce on this case..." I imagine you're correct. Especially since I imagine that those who do transition tend to just blend into the populace, happy that they are actualized, and have little need or desire to stand up and be counted as transgender. I suppose that's the goal for all of us? Just to be comfortable in our skin.

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  2. you are correct Emma. Diamond lived a very haphazard existence and evidently has had some mental problems. Transitioning seemed to be something to try because he was bored. I featured this story because people who don't understand this subject love to latch on to cases like these and show how the transgender are mentally ill. Except that Diamond Dee is not the least bit trans.

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