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a real pity

Dissatisfaction with how the world is going is ending up with extremists and racists jumping into right wing parties. You are seeing it in the United States where a xenophobic bully and outright moron like Donald Trump was able to hijack a party already flirting with backward thinking extremism.

Only in the US can you see the NRA have such a stranglehold that they would rather see the disturbed or terrorists have easier access to weapons than put even the most minimal restrictions that would ultimately protect the public.

Obama was in Canada this week and gave a well crafted and gracious speech that earned him a standing ovation. I then imagined a scenario where an oaf like Trump would address the same house of Commons with his usual array of facial contortions and nonsensical buffoonery.

I for one am going to miss Obama and mourn the fact that he won't overlap with our current Prime Minister for much longer. He spent a good deal of his tenure at odds with our own machivellian and charisma challenged Stephen Harper. So not only was Obama stimied at every turn in his own country but he was getting little support north of the border with our own Republican-light Conservative Party.

The gap between left and right is getting wider and the two sides depending more on soundbytes preferring that to solid and real information. Now that idiots have their own radio programs and cable news shows they can rally around and be fed their own mantras instead of the truth.

Oh what a pity because we need even-handed and steady leadership today more than ever.



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