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now why didn't I think of that?

Ben Carson is a retired neurosurgeon who shows that even some doctors don’t understand (or refuse to acknowledge in public) the reality that the transgender person faces. Of course he is part of the Republican faithful and they love things in black and white. So they fall back on the old reliable "you can’t change someone’s chromosomes" argument.

Carson bluntly and not so delicately stated the other day that "a leopard can't change his spots" and I take it we are to marvel at this observation as if it were some brilliant revelation no one else had thought of. This is not deep or nuanced thinking but instead what works for his base who can't look past their nose.

No Dr. Carson you can't change someone's chromosomes which is why it’s called a gender role transition.

Of course I don’t have to explain these things to my own readers but when someone who should know better doesn’t acknowledge that there can be a big differential gap between biological sex and gender identity it makes me cringe a little. This reality needn’t always be addressed via a full transition but for some people it seems to be mandatory.

That doctor friend I had dinner with recently certainly understands this and has seen transgender kids in his practice. He is not alone in this regard and there are others.

The number of vile and hateful comments that are spewed when some makes a YouTube video explaining this topic intelligently is astounding. There is a complete lack of understanding that is going to take a long time to overcome. Even then not everyone is going to agree with the explanation offered. It was no different as witnessed by the comments at the end of the article on Dr. Carson's deep pronouncement.

So the only answer is going to be legislation and to enforce it because there are enough uninformed and unpleasant folks in this world to have the general public have any say in this issue be a dangerous thing. This is especially true given the fact that the percentage of transgender people is so tiny.

People don't need to agree with how you live your life; they just need to mind their own business and worry about their own. If only our world actually worked that way.

Dr. Carson may want to use some of his own grey matter to figure this one out because his "logical" argument only seems to resonate with those who aren't transgender.

I can't possibly imagine why.


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  1. This brings up so many things for me:
    1. "A leopard can't change his spots." I know Carson didn't use it in this way but for me, he's correct, in that no matter how much I tried to stop my transgender thoughts and feelings, I couldn't.

    2. Yesterday on NPR they interviewed someone from the RNC management who said something like "Sure, we include LGBT folks! We don't care about whatever lifestyle they choose." That pissed me off. As if any of it is a choice.

    3. But I will say that the widespread realization that it's not a choice is fairly new. About 35 years ago I went camping with a couple of gay friends at a gay resort in Northern California. Wonderful guys - we had a blast. One night around the campfire I asked one a question that I knew was awkward but I had to. I asked him if his being gay was a choice. He assured me that it was not. Thankfully he didn't take offense and I learned something.

    But today what is mostly bothering me is that people like Carson, Ted Cruz, and others, assume that it is all a choice, just because they don't understand or comprehend that others are just what they are.

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  2. What bothers most in all this is the pronouncement of something without even the most basic homework. I am assuming Carson isn't stupid but he is driven by dogmatic beliefs that don't allow for him to be wrong. My own doctor knows very little about trans issues but I have been educating him over the years to understand. They don't see this in medical school.

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