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the best time in our history

As society becomes more open about the concepts of sex and gender we are seeing the true nature of humans and it turns out that we cover a wide and varied spectrum. The little boxes of male and female are fine if you are looking strictly at genitalia but how a person identifies is more complex. What kept us constrained in the past were social constructs and rigid rules about what constitutes male and female behaviour and what was considered “normal”.

I can barely recognize the world of today compared to when I was growing up; it is that much different and because we have relaxed the rules we have begun to see the true manifestation of what it means to be human instead of pre-formatted cardboard cutouts of each other.

I have said here many times that nature abhors perfection and uniformity and yet we were expecting it to apply to human behavior and most specifically with regards to gender. Kinsey, Hirschfeld and Benjamin gave us our wake up calls in the early and middle parts of the 20th century with their published works but the reality dates back to the dawn of human history.

It is not just to expect people to submit to a set of manufactured standards that do not fit them but religious fundamentalism and the need of countries to subjugate its populace demanded conformance because it facilitated control.

However, today the genie is out of the bottle and it’s not going back in.

If you don’t feel empowered by this you should because if you fit the description of a gender non-conforming or dysphoric person your options have never been better than at this time in our history.

Don’t concern yourself with labels but simply look inside yourself and understand what constitutes your personhood. After that proceed to honour that nature instead of bending yourself to a model that you cannot possibly fit into simply because it has been mandated to you.

Remember that it is never too late to be who you always should have been.


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