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we don't need permission but....

It's important to have skin like an elephant; in fact it's mandatory.

People are supportive or people are repulsed and nothing can be done about it. You cannot convert and educate everyone but you need to live. That takes resolve and courage.

Despite everything I've been through in my life I consider myself very fortunate. I can go about the world and not be bothered but not everyone has that flexibility. My aim is not to preach but to thrive in spite of the challenges.

A good start is by not being our own worst enemies.

On the other hand I become troubled when I see someone pop up and suddenly announce on social media that they are a woman and leave wife and children in utter bewilderment . It makes the rest of us who are trying to do the right thing look bad and I take my responsibilities seriously.

Gender dysphoria is not kind that way and it demands attention. It is like a car with no breaks but it can be steered at least. Those of us who are more conventional don't make the headlines as much but we represent the silent majority.

I no longer seek my family's permission to be myself I only ask for their understanding which I am lucky to have.

But then here is one of those frightful train wrecks that the media loves....


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