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tolerance and respect for diversity

People who are frustrated by their own life and situations will lash out at others. This is something that I have observed repeatedly over my lifetime. When you are happy in your skin you are less likely to find objection with other people and more inclined to live and let live.

Many people have been raised in ways that have encouraged prejudices which they then proliferate in their adulthood until they come to a realization that they might have been wrong to hold them. In some cases that never happens.

The world needs more understanding of diversity than ever because we are living in an era where nothing is hidden any longer. We have discovered every type of behavioral and identity difference that exists which is challenging preconceived ideas of what we thought was reality. This is most starkly being felt by older people who grew up before we opened the windows and let more light shine onto people’s lives.

The truth is that for millennia, societies have operated using oppression as a weapon of control. This infiltrated down to the level of the family structure and any divergences were seen as being shameful and subject to eradication. Dealing with reality was not the objective but rather adhering to an artificial standard.

Religious and social conservatives are being particularly challenged these days but then these are not the type of role models that I grew up with. They represent the alt-right movement which intends on fighting back against what they deem to be the excesses of social permissiveness gone mad. They will put things right by going back to the old model of oppression.

The world I grew up in was still restrictive and it almost killed my spirit. I am so much more heartened to see the youth of today (which includes my children) be able to see reality for what it is and develop a tolerance and respect for it.

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