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We are all different as is the strength of our cross gender feelings but the transgender movement has been big on promoting the idea of transition as a cure-all panacea. However, many of us including borderline transsexuals like myself, could manage by incorporating a healthy dose of gender non-conformity into our lives and be relatively happy.

One of the historical obstacles to this approach had gender non-conformity being seen as an unacceptable solution to dysphoria. We associated it with sexual deviance and even saw fit to arrest people who dared to crossdress in public. Therefore before surgery was possible (and even after) many transgender people chose to live as the other gender in stealth rather than risk unacceptable gender behaviour and the persecution that inevitably came with it.

As we have expanded the acceptability of a wider range of gender expression, it should be logical to assume that less people will opt for a complete transition and by freeing the person to be themselves we will remove the hard constraints that have traditionally plagued gender non-conformity. This does not mean that transitions will disappear, far from it, but only that there will be more options for those who don’t need, wish to or cannot do so.

Gender and its expression is that last taboo territory that limited people to a restrictive set of rules not truly representative of reality. We wrongly assumed that being born with a particular set of genitalia exclusively governed gender identity and expression which has been proven to be patently false.

People of my generation bought into the sexual perversity model and caused our own pain and suffering when all that was required was the loosening of the reins that today’s youth currently enjoys.


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  1. I'd say that a main reason we bought into the sexual perversity model was largely due to lack of information. Worse, the information that we mostly received was from so-called experts like Blanchard who excelled at promoting their position, vs, more enlightened people like Harry Benjamin. Shedding the weight of those early learnings is hard to do but like you say, we are makmjg progress.

    In some ways I envy the young people especially when I see movies such as "My Transgender Summer Camp." Those children and their parents have options that were simply unavailable before about ten years ago (puberty blockers).

    The options for all of us continue to increase, thank goodness. I'm going to attend this weekend's TDoR. Let's hope those options increase to the point where TDoR becomes an anachronism. Soon.

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  2. we had no idea what we were facing...

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  3. "As we have expanded the acceptability of a wider range of gender expression, it should be logical to assume that less people will opt for a complete transition"

    Nope if you have strong physical gender dysphoria, all the social acceptance in the world won't change that..
    If your GD is far more around visual and behavioural aspects then a non surgical transition can work, it does for many, though even with those the vast majority are on HRT and many have other procedures to make then look better (FFS, electrolysis, etc) and they live as and present as women (and of course men for trans men).

    That is a TERF myth, that if it becomes more acceptable to be non-binary (who TERFs also hate by the way) then there will be less who transition.
    This is just saying they are really no trans people, they really are just gender non conforming 'men' (and of course women) being 'forced' into transition by the 'great trans activist/medical establishment/ anti gay/misogynist conspiracy'.

    Bit like arguing that better acceptance of bisexuals will; lead to less gays and lesbians.

    What is actually happening in real life is that there are far more of both now as trans and non-binary people are more accepted, and thus more 'come out of the closet'..

    Sorry, I am not a gender non conforming man, I am a woman who just got unlucky at birth..

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    1. Lisa I am not saying that you are a gender non-conforming man; far from it. My point is that some of us need to deal with the reality that our dysphoria can or must be managed another way other than a full transition. At least this is what I am trying to do with my life. I don't want to confuse gender non-conformance with dysphoric people here but let's also recall that 100 years ago no one transitioned and there were no choices. What did that make those people and how did they cope all of their lives?

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