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waking the sleeping giant

You need nerves of steel to face society when you attempt to transgress their rules and regulations but that is the price to pay for being transgender. At a certain point the urgency to address your gender issues supersedes your fear and you must act or face health consequences.

4 in 10 of us attempts or succeeds at suicide but this should never be what we need to resort to in order to lead genuine lives.

I was one of the lucky ones in that the strength of my dysphoria coupled with a solid upbringing with 2 loving parents likely made the difference. However living in silence for over 40 years almost crushed me. Therefore I worry about our community in this reversal of fortune in the United States for there are many forces at play.

You have TERFS, Evangelical and conservative Christians plus the exclusionary and racist elements of society conspiring to erode the rights we have gained. I would be greatly despondent to see suicides go up among the young due to this emboldening of the lunatic fringe. The Blanchardians and HBS crowd are all but relegated to geriatric irrelevance with no takers to take up their flawed cause, but the others are lining up to take their place.

Trump’s election will prove disastrous but could ultimately invigorate the grass roots movement and spark a renewed interest in social and political change. At least I take solace in the fact that the Y generation is far more progressive and tolerant than the baby boomers.

Sometimes it takes a drastic series of events to wake the sleeping giant.


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  1. I am generally wrong about a lot of things. I also don't profess to be any kind of seer. Finally I am no fan of Donald Trump. Having said all that I think far too much bad is being projected onto the Trump presidency. Generally I think Trump is largely indifferent to almost all social/moral questions. He's a money man. That's what he thinks about. That's what he cares about. Secondly, Trump doesn't have a clue as to how difficult it will be to accomplish any change at all. Four years of gridlock are more likely than any other scenario. I don't think transgender issues are on the Trump radar screen and even if they are to some degree it amounts to little more than impolite (since the idea of being polite is beyond him) indifference. My two pence worth...

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    1. I hope you are right but also remember that the people he is putting on his cabinet are extremists. Pence is an evangelical and he is even putting Breibart news editor Stephen Bannon in there as a strategist. All of these guys are enemies of the LGBT community. Trump isn't smart enough or concerned enough to regin these guys in...but I hope you are right.

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