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patience is a virtue

I was watching Camille Paglia being interviewed recently.

I am not a fan and her almost histrionic tone as she stammers her way through a conversation is almost jarring. She knows absolutely nothing about gender dysphoria but of course has lots to say about transgender youth. Remember how I said recently that those least well poised to speak are often the most vocal?

But there was a point made that merited reflection: As we come out from hiding might some of these trans kids be too quickly turning to body modification rather than settling for being authentic transgender people?

What about creating a societal environment where they don’t need to do that.

Make no mistake in that some of these transgender youths are deeply dysphoric and may be prime candidates for full transitions but for others it’s not as clear cut.

Now that our environment is more receptive to transgender people and we are emerging from hiding they may want to take a few deep breaths before hand.

However if I have observed anything about millennials is that they are not accustomed to waiting for things.

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  1. I'm not convinced that millennials are in any more of a rush to their destination than we were (and are). I think there are many if not most trans people who would love to be able to magically toggle a switch to instantly transition.

    Millennials and younger are fortunate to grow up in a world that is becoming more trans friendly and aware, and the use of puberty blockers, while expensive, is about as ideal a solution as there can be to allow the young person time to decide.

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    1. You may be correct about this Emma and the new openness does allow for more options than we had.

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