Authenticity begins internally.
You need to accept who you are and proceed from there but that means letting go of much from the lessons you were taught about who you were supposed to be.
Most transgender people at one point or another have suffered from self-esteem issues and that’s not hard to explain. Try to fit a square peg in a round hole and see what happens and yet that is what we were expected to do all of our lives. The secret lies in self-definition. I know that sounds deceptively simple but it is the only way out of our dilemma.
This was a very hard lesson for me to learn because I wanted to believe that everything I had been taught and saw all around me in society was the way things were supposed to be for me as well.
It would be easy to blame my parents or society but really the only person who could do this was me. You are the master of how you feel about yourself and no one else. Besides, I kept it all to myself and never asked for help assuming that I was some sort of defective and weak person who couldn’t self-repair.
One of my tipping points came when I realized I had so much discipline in every other area of my life so why couldn’t I solve this riddle? But there was no riddle. The solution was to simply accept myself exactly as I am.