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Height a secondary issue

My height is not nearly as important as I used to think it was.

However, when I was mired in insecurity I saw it as a major obstacle towards blending in. Now that I am in a different place its almost a non-issue.

For one thing millennials are taller than baby boomers and that includes taller young women. But I have also noticed that tall genetic women don’t worry about being misgendered so why would I. If you know you should be there and are happy with yourself you will do more than fine.

That has definitely been the case for me and now I don’t give it a second thought and go about my business. As a result, I have never been more ‘Madamed’ in my entire life so obviously it’s working.

All the more proving that the inside has to be in a good place before worrying about the outside.




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  1. I think you hit the nail on the head, "But I have also noticed that tall genetic women don’t worry about being misgendered so why would I." At 5' 9" (1.75m) I'd like to be shorter but that's certainly not so tall as to feel awkward as a woman.

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    1. I am 6'1" but I regularly see taller women than even me and now go up to them and give them the thumbs up...

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  2. True. Plus there seems to be plenty of women's clothes for tall gals. I'm almost your height and used to think that'd disqualify me from presenting as female but that's foolishness.

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    1. of course it is. Don't let that stop you!

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