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it was a set up

Steven Crowder and Ben Shapiro don’t do subtle. They are both loud and smug and love to point out the obvious that men have “outies” and women have “innies”.

But I do have to hand it to Jess Herbst for appearing on the Steven Crowder program which was clearly a set up intended to make her look ridiculous. Even the camera angle on Jess’s computer was not helping matters.

Of course we know that on the issue of sex and gender Crowder doesn’t know his ass from his elbow but it is easy to use the vacuum of general knowledge and even the marked disagreement between the “experts” against the credibility of transgender people. It makes it more expedient to just call them mental defectives or part of a social movement of choice.

The kind of people who cheer Crowder on are Bible thumpers and knuckle draggers who themselves don’t want to think any further than looking at a person’s genitals. Notice however that when Jess brings up the issue of intersex people, Crowder sloughs it off as a statistically insignificant number but doesn’t tackle the underlying reality that how a person identifies isn’t necessarily related to the plumbing they were born with.

If Crowder were to go to the bathroom with a young transgender male who had been taking testosterone for some time he wouldn’t be able to tell this individual was born a female; just as an early transitioning male to female would go completely un-noticed in a woman’s bathroom.

This issue is about intolerance and prejudice plain and simple and there is no justification for not allowing transgender people to use the bathroom that aligns with their identity. I have been using the ladies room for many years without incident and have even been known to strike up a short conversation.

I am not sure it was a good idea for Jess Herbst to appear on a show that was essentially a set-up designed to make her look foolish. She didn’t have enough preparation although she did her best and was credible but then she would have had to have been incredibly compelling in order to convince the low brows that listen to this type of program.

This issue doesn't need to be complicated as there aren't enough of us to make it so. The problem lies in the underlying fear that drives racism and intolerance in other areas. Hence if I don't understand or relate to something it must necessarily be invalid.

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