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I found the link to this movie on Sandra Lopes's site. It is called "Normal" and deals with a transition late in life in a very dignified manner.

No one understands this subject, not even the person doing the transitioning, and the outcome here is less important than the wonderful performances most particularly from Jessica Lange who plays the beleaguered spouse trying to understand while dealing with the societal backlash against her husband.

I think it is worth your time to see it...

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  1. I had a good cry during this one... I saw it a few years ago. Honestly, although I always watch them, movies like this are not good for me. I thought the movie was pretty well done however.

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    1. they do hit home don't they Calie? yes a tough watch but an honest portrayal that allows people on the outside to see the complexities of this issue and for trans people to realize how others react to them.

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  2. I watched this movie thinking just how depressingly true this portrayal was.
    For a trans* outsider, it certainly shows just how irrational it all seems, and just how destructive it can be.

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    1. absolutely correct...it seems irrational to us as well..

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  3. I just watched it for the first time this morning and was amazed at how many scenes dovetailed with my experiences with my wife over the last few years. Although I'm not transitioning and my wife still care deeply about each other we are nonetheless going our separate ways. "Normal" has a wonderful ending of love winning out which I assumed I would also experience especially given that we live in a decidedly more liberal and aware area in the SF Bay Area vs. somewhere in the Farm-Belt. But I loved the movie, thank you Joanna.

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