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gender non-conformance versus transgenderism

Gender non-conformity is not the same as being transgender with the main distinction being that not all gender variant people experience gender dysphoria.

The other day I was watching a video of a makeup artist being interviewed. That person identified as gay male who cross-dressed virtually full time yet in no way did they even partially identify as a female. They simply chalked up their choice of garb as a preference rather than as an expression of a core female identity. Interestingly, they could have easily been mistaken for a very passable middle-aged transgender woman.

You can see how these two things could cause confusion among civilians.

Perhaps gender non-conformity in absence of dysphoria can be thought of as the flexing of gender norms in order to achieve individuality. Whereas the transgender person can accept or struggle against their nature but it cannot fundamentally be altered.

I am now certain that Harry Benjamin’s hypothesis of varying gender dysphoria intensity in individuals was correct because the response of each person is not identical. The statistics bear this out with those who fully transition representing a minority of cases and the remainder either solely taking HRT, undergoing a social transition or using part time gender expression as a management tool.

Hence we can state that most transgender people are necessarily gender non-conforming however the opposite need not be true and not all gender variance is rooted in being transgender.


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  1. Yes it confuses "civilians" but life is more complex than most imagine. Those who care to learn about this will, those who don't, won't. I've given up on trying to educate the hoi polloi.

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  2. One senses that a significant seismic shift is taking place, but the cause(s) and the parameters of this shift are either impossible to determine or are changing so rapidly it is difficult to grasp. (Perhaps more accurately, difficult to impossible for me to take in.) Now where's that "Work in Progress" sign when I need it?

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