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Jenner learns

Caitlyn Jenner had a steep learning curve but she has improved.

When she first came out there was a kind of obtuseness present borne out of living your life in a bubble. Yes she had been deeply dysphoric all of her life and finally took the steps required to live authentically but she couldn't relate to people who were far less fortunate. Before coming out she had never even met another transgender person.

Still she faced her own detractors and the offensive bile thrown her way on social media was impressive and pulled no punches. The paparazzi followed her every move and they mocked as they took photos. In the end whether you live in the public eye or in private, the life of a trans person is not easy.

I think you will agree as you watch this brief exchange with Seth Meyers that she has come a long way in the last two years and whatever advocacy she can muster can only help to bring attention to the plight of those in our community who are not quite so fortunate.

Jenner shows us we are not a monolithic group and our ideas and our politics will differ and that being trans is part of your overall identity which doesn't define every aspect of your being....


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  1. Jenner was not the only one who underestimated the way the Republican Party has become more extremist and bigoted. Her idea that Trump could be a champion of LGBT rights would have made sense if he was an open minded Conservative of the European kind, or -- for that matter -- a moderat American Conservative.

    There aren't that many moderate Conservatives left in the Republican Party, though, and those who remain are mostly silent. The focus on the freedom of the individual has been replaced by a desperate need to force traditionalist and reactionary ideas on to the whole of society.

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    1. Jack completely agree although Trump is not so much an extremist Republican as simply a narcissistic opportunist. He has flipped-flopped his way from one party to the other and one platform to the other. He has surrounded himself with the cabal of Sessions and Bannon who are openly hostile to LGBT issues and so he just follows suit. I don't think Trump is clever or tactical enough to have these strong opinions...

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  2. I agree with your thoughts on her evolution. At the outset I wasn't happy Caitlyn was elevated to the position of our media spokesperson because of her many blind spots, but her openness to growth and learning makes it okay. Her visibility is, on the whole, better for us than not. After six decades of invisibility, I won't quibble.

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    1. this is a good point Ally. She may not have been our first choice of spokesperson but after being invisible for so long we will take someone out there holding out a torch..

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    2. I agree with Ally. As much as I also quibble with Caitlyn, her visibility is good for us. That, and she is also showing a human side where she is learning as she goes. Don't we all? And, isn't it amazing (and almost unbelievable) that she went through all her GD and transition without talking to another transwoman? Sure, she had a lot to lose what with her celebrity status and all. Still, I find that amazing and I congratulate her on her fortitude.

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