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the hot pink bra

“Every woman needs a pink bra” the young sales girl tells me.

She has been extremely friendly and helpful and is almost as tall as me. She is very open and suddenly we are talking away.

Perhaps against my better judgement I bought a hot pink bra because it was on sale and after getting home I realized it wasn’t the best choice given its likelihood to show its color underneath certain clothing. But I wasn’t thinking about this at the time because of the great price and due to the fact they had my size.

But the best part of it all was the interaction with this young woman and my ability to be so completely at ease with who I am. It made buying this item of clothing worth the money even if I need to be careful what I wear over it.

I very much enjoy interacting with people and, reaching this echelon while presenting as Joanna, has been a slow process but definitely worth the effort. No matter what my gender presentation, I am equally comfortable after many years of terrifying dread about presenting female.

Those I interact with are most often wonderful I think largely because they see a happy and secure person. The odd time I get an odd stare I simply return the favor until they look away. They might only want to get a glance at the tall woman or maybe they aren’t sure about my gender. All of that is fine provided they are respectful.

If you haven’t made it past the fear and trepidation stage you owe yourself the delight in attaining this plateau which amounts to not caring one whit about what anyone thinks. My neighbors can get a good eyeful for all I care.

Although hopefully they won't see the hot pink bleeding out from underneath.


  1. Good for you! Enjoy your stage of self- and social-acceptance. Many of us never reach that.

  2. I agree with Allie's wholehearted support for you. Some day I may very well join you... while wearing my own pink bra!

  3. Pardon my ignorance, but I can't wrap my mind around the notion that every woman needs a pink bra. It seems to have all the hallmarks of an impractical article of clothing unless one wants to make some kind of statement or draw attention to yourself.

    1. I think she was making a reference to letting it all hang out and being playful. The price got the better of me but still I will find a way to wear it under something so that the color doesn't show through since it fits well...


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