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cultural changes help us come out

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Dr. Margaret Nichols is a sex therapist who has worked with transgender people for over 30 years.

She has seen a dramatic change during that time and her first patients in the late 1980's and early 1990's consisted mostly of male to female adults who were intent on transitioning after years of repression. She saw almost no female to male patients and certainly no transgender kids to speak of.

By the late 1990's things were beginning to change and she started treating her first female to male patients and as the years progressed she began seeing increasingly younger patients who were now braver in a more tolerant and open environment.

In this video she expresses the reality of the varied world of gender expression and identity exceedingly well. I am so happy that people like Dr. Nichols are working to support us and help show the world that we transgender people are beautiful and valuable and part of the human mosaic.

It is interesting to note that the toxic work and conclusions drawn by Ray Blanchard were linked to the same patient subset that Dr. Nichols first saw when she began practicing and the true reality of the gender spectrum was yet to reveal itself. It is a much different world today and we now know that the conclusions drawn from his work turned out to be completely false.

You will also take note of her emphasis on the particular pressures put on feminine males to conform and the shame that kept them in hiding in our patriarchal societies.

Bravo Margaret Nichols for your powerful discourse and how I wish we had people like you when I was growing up!








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  1. Bravo to you, Joanna, for sharing these important videos. Please share more!

    Dr. Nichols really spoke to me. I knew at 3-4, I learned the shame and secrecy I needed to live by and kept it up for the following half-century. It helps me to hear experts like Dr. Nichols talk about all this. Like a validation, I learn more about my history and while I don't dwell in the past we all have one. It's our foundation.

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    1. I knew very young as well but just taught myself to repress like most of us of our generation and older. This new environment is helping even those of us who lived during the dark years to find light. This video was a great thing to see..

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