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victims to the caricature

To varying degrees we all suffer from the caricature that society has created for men and women. Men are strong and women are weak. Men are stoic and women are emotive. Men are more single minded and women are good multi taskers. While this may be true for some it doesn't apply to others but once the rules were made we were expected to follow suit.

Breaking these norms takes some courage because you become the object of ridicule, the butt of jokes and even a victim to violence. For the first time in my lifetime and maybe in history we are starting to see a slackening of the noose and witnessing a new respect for the diversity that actually exists out there in the world.

What this means for some men is the chance to define themselves outside of the macho, stoic provider and for women to be the natural leaders that some of them are. It will be about allowing our capabilities and not our gender decide what we can or cannot do.

For those of us who are gender dysphoric it has also opened up options about how to demonstrate and live our innate variance; with or without transition.

Feminists like to say that one learns to be a woman in our culture and that many of those dictates are not innate which I think is the same for men. We are taught to be the cardboard cut out which often implies suppressing instincts and inclinations in order to gain societal approval.

In this brave new world that I barely recognize let us hope we continue to allow and promote that people find their own comfort zone without outside prejudice or malice in order to avoid being caricatures and become their true selves.


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