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a sense of humor

It's important to have a sense of humor about ourselves.

Being transgender for me was for the longest time a matter of great seriousness and concern and now I can look back on my history and laugh a little. Having that sense of whimsy can relax you and make you realize that there is a lot of potential to laugh at ourselves in a good way and we can enjoy the way we are all the more by removing obstacles through the gift of laughter.

If only I knew then what I know now but it is not too late at my age to reap the benefits of what I have learned about myself and about the world.

So the next time you feel really down about being trans try and look at the positive side and see the inherent humor that our situation has put us in over the years. I know I have had many and they form part of my formation as a human being who was born just a little different.


  1. So many wonderful experiences have come to me solely because of being transgender. Fun adventures - Exciting adventures - I am so happy to have experienced. Laugh out loud moments. Treasures. Yes Positive!

    1. I have had a few of those that should have been laugh out loud but only do so now in retrospect because I have come to that place where I can....

  2. Funny story: Indecided to come out to people who has become my friends long past transition. Such a decision is always fraught with fear and angst over how they will react, but I was reasonably certain that this crowd of largely younger people would have no problems. In fact, they were so receptive, they came equipped with vocabulary and a general understanding of trans-news without my having to explain anything. But that led to come hilarious confusion.

    "Oh, so, you identify as a man? That's cool."

    "Um, no. I don't identify as a man."

    "Oh, I'm sorry. I didn't mean to impose anything. How do you identify?"

    "As a woman."

    "But you are a woman."

    "Yes," at this point I was smiling devilishly.

    "Then how are you trans? Is it some sort of gender variance we're failing to recognize? Not trying to be offensive."

    "Haha. You're not being offensive at all. You're just overlooking a possibility."

    "You're a woman. You identify as a woman. So, how can......". A long pause transpired, and there was a collective, "Oh!"

    Then they let that settle a bit. Several expressed disbelief. I asked hem why anyone would lie about that, and we all laughed a while.

    People under 40 are so much easier to deal with than their counterparts. Younger generations make it so much easier to broach the subject with levity.

    1. ha ha great story and yes people under 40 are so much easier to deal with!


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