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asking the right questions

Felix Conrad has written a solid and thought provoking post which won't win him converts among some members of the transgender community but which is spot on in asking the right questions and wanting to find realistic answers for them.

If we want people to understand and accept us we need to look inside all of the nooks and crannies and examine ourselves realistically and critically which means not taking it for granted that you can say to the general public "I am a woman" and have them accept it without reservation.

No, being transgender is indeed a little more complex than being gay or lesbian...

http://transcendmovement.com/why-transgender-rights-are-much-more-problematic-than-gay-rights/


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  1. I found this a thoughtful article. Is there an inherent lie at the center of transgenderism? Does transgenderism require an individual to ignore certain fundamental laws of nature? Is transgenderism illogical or at least perceived as illogical to the non-transgender individual? I don't think Felix's piece will prove very popular.

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    1. No it won't Katie because it draws attention to one of the sacred cows in the transgender community which is that I am a woman because I say so. Don't get me wrong however in that I believe that a transitioned woman should be respected and treated as any other woman the problem is that we need to admit that there is more than meets the eye to gender dysphoria and we need to understand it before making bold pronouncements.

      We get attacked from the right by people who say gender is just in your genitals which is patently false so the best way to counteract this type of thinking is to arm ourselves with credible arguments and not just emotional ones.

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