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Now here is a fellow writing to an Irish advice column where he gets some very perceptive feedback from Brian O'Reilley.

While my experience or yours may differ from this person's, the point is that he is searching too adamantly for a category to slot himself into.

The best advice he receives:

"Don't feel pressured to put labels on yourself, they're unnecessary"


http://www.independent.ie/style/sex-relationships/ask-brian-ive-started-crossdressing-after-discovering-my-girlfriend-cheated-on-me-35976717.html


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  1. But labels can help, too. It's good to know whether one is gay, straight, trans, etc., especially if/when he has a new GF. He brought up so many issues that I think the best advice was: "You should also explore the gender issues you have identified, but I think it might be worth talking to a qualified professional about it." I completely agree that nothing he described is wrong or shameful but I would think it helpful for him to explore and determine where he is in the real world. Playing around with cyber sex is a thrill perhaps but shouldn't be mistaken for determining his sexuality, gender...

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    1. I agree with you Barry and I am not advocating playing with cybersex but more harping on the point to not be in a rush to label yourself. He could be just a man who enjoys dressing up from time to time who may or may not be bisexual for example. The advice was to take a deep breath and explore and not look for a quick sticker tag...

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