Sherry is aware of her sexuality, how it makes her feel and how it impacts her partner and men in general. She also knows what types of clothing and shoes suit her body and that women possess more sexual power than men.
Many transgender people, myself included, worried about cross gender arousal and what it meant. Did it disqualify our transgender feelings somehow? was it a sign of perversion?
The answer is none of the above.
I wrestled with this issue in this blog for a long time but finally concluded that the set of circumstances that create a transgender person also help create a unique sexuality that once understood one needs to look past to find self-acceptance. This is why introducing estrogen into the picture is a good way to test whether you are transgender since the cooling of the libido would not impact the cross-gender identification.
Clare Fluorish reminded of this in her recent post as she describes her crossdressing friend who tired of wearing female clothing once his need for excitement was over. Clare, like my friend Sherry, wears both pragmatic clothing and more sexual fare because that is what women do.
Understanding my cross-gender arousal (which has mellowed greatly with age) has made me feel much better about my identity as a transgender person (which is as strong as ever by the way) and I understand much of it has to do with dealing with feelings inside a male vessel which operates on a different set of criteria.
I didn’t need my friend Sherry to help me understand all this and I knew it before but she just helped me confirm it. In fact you could say she proved herself to be the "Sherry" on the sundae
(yes I can hear you groan from here Sherry)