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the little details

This past Friday night was only the second time in my entire life that I have gone to a movie as Joanna.

There was nothing particularly eventful about the experience only that before the show started the woman next to me leaned over and said:

“Normally these theatres are so cold but not today for some reason dont'cha think?”

I replied that I agreed.

She dealt with me like one woman to another and I know for a fact that wouldn’t have happened if I weren’t presenting as one. It wasn’t just what she said but the way she said it and I have learnt to recognize and appreciate that approach very much.

Then it was meeting Jacqueline and her husband yesterday on the train from Oakville to Union Station. She asks me why I am going downtown and we begin a conversation. He is half interested and does not look up from his phone except for the odd time perhaps recognizing the flow of the discourse has taken on a decidedly female tone. By the end of the train ride she has given me her card and wants to get together for coffee.

There definitely is a difference in the way women relate to each other. Of that there is no question.


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  1. Sounds like fun!

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  2. Yes, they do... and the inability to tap into that saddened me for years. It still does. Glad the door opened for you.

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  3. When your consciousness is rising that wavelength, you'll resonate a certain way. Others will pick up on it, and adjust accordingly. Unconsciously. Especially those riding the same wave.

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  4. thanks to all of you for the nice comments..

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