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the value in suffering and the mundane

There is value in the mundane and ordinary because that is where we spend most of our lives. Think of this part of life as the vegetables while the steak and dessert are those fleeting moments where we celebrate unexpected euphoria.

Mark Manson’s book is called “The Subtle Art of not Giving a F*ck” and it deals with high expectations we place for our lives and the increasing focus on having it all. We celebrate the special and unique in everyone forgetting that not everyone will be and place emphasis on finding it at all costs lest we fail to measure up. We have found a way to strip suffering and hard work from the formula of life which allows through contrast to know the happiness we seek. That struggle lived is part of the journey which leads to true fulfillment through learned experience.

When I was young the old adage was that it’s about the journey and not the destination and one of the unavoidable parts of the human condition is suffering. Yet with its experience comes the formation of the deep roots that make you a solid person. In this age of instant gratification and dumbing down of our culture by extolling unearned celebrity and downgrading the sanctity found in the ordinary, we have found ourselves straying from the path that produces meaning.

Manson argues for embracing the everyday mundane within the context that we are finite beings thus allowing us to truly put things into perspective. He doesn't recommend not giving a shit about anything but instead focuses on giving a shit about the right things.

While this book touches on lessons many of us have drawn from life it is still a good refresher and perhaps a good starting point for millenials who want to clear the cobwebs from our rudderless modernity to find nuggets of insight.

Highly recommended reading.




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  1. I'm more concerned about the Not-So-Subtle Art of Not GETTING a F*uck these days.

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    1. ah well that's not so easy for a trans person...

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