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I was approached by a head hunter recently and then thought about it for a while. Do I want to change companies and is this my chance to begin working as a woman?

I honestly don’t think that this would present a problem for most companies in 2017 and my CV speaks for itself so now it’s just a question of reflection.

My children wouldn’t feel the difference since seeing them on the weekend only requires changing presentation with the most I would be doing is piercing my ears and shaping my eyebrows; hardly earth-shattering stuff. Besides they are moving on with their lives and I am on my own with no requirement to please someone else.

I have the wardrobe, the voice and the mannerisms. Now I just need the right opportunity and the courage.

Time will tell.

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  1. You go girl! Getting up every morning and going to work was such a joy! A pinch yourself moment to make sure you were not dreaming.

    Rhonda

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  2. I wonder if the best of both worlds would be an understanding that you can come to work dressed as you choose to dress for the day. There can be no doubt that you will get the job done regardless of your attire and after a fashion I am sure that your new co-workers will come to accept you not only for the professional effort and experience that you bring to your job but for your unique approach to the gender spectrum.
    Pat

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    1. this is an interesting comment Pat and I think you are right

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  3. Well, you would have to get hired first. You could go to the interviews presenting as Joanna and see how it goes for you and them.

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