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sometimes it's best to walk away

Yesterday I was on Thirdwaytrans' blog and almost caught myself arguing with a Blanchardian convert until I realized the person not only had no first hand experience dealing with gender dysphoria but also had some pretty sophomoric things to say which were taken directly out of the Freund Blanchard playbook.

Judging from the certitude in their tone I realized I would have wasted my breath over long threads so I asked Thirdwaytrans to kindly delete my initial responses. Sometimes it's just best to walk away than to attempt to educate people who have only touched the surface of a topic and still feign knowledge of it; a topic which I have been studying for years.

No, I don't pretend to have all the answers but I do know where the gaping holes are and when someone has clearly stepped right into them. But what I like most is that all the piss and vinegar I used to have regarding this issue is gone and been replaced with a calm certainty.

Something I very much like.


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  1. You did the right thing.....and I noticed.

    xx

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  2. “what I like most is that all the piss and vinegar I used to have regarding this issue is gone and been replaced with a calm certainty.”

    Yeah, that’s always the best part. When it stops bothering you as having something to say about yourself and/or because it makes others believe falsehoods. Same goes for all the negativity from the myriad anti-trans folks. When you hit that point where you just settle into your own skin, and happily separate yourself from the ignorance and prejudices of others.

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