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my chat with Alex

I was prepared to go into a long discussion about my trans history but then it never happened.

I was at the Starbucks and Alex (the early twenties trans woman) had just finished her shift and wanted to chat with me. So, she sat down and we began talking about generalities neither one of us acknowledging we were transgender.

I wasn’t sure whether she suspected but then she began saying things that made me sure she didn’t. I was then sure I was the older lady and not the other trans woman. We talked about being yourself and having confidence and I sensed that she has more of it than I had at the same age.

Suddenly she talked about coming out to her parents in her mid-teens and them having a tough time with it but then coming around. She is funny and philosophical and easy with a laugh. At the end of our conversation she told me that I was a very nice lady and I thanked her. I felt I didn’t need to go down that other rabbit hole now.

She has her whole life ahead of her with the advantage that she fancies men in a world that is far more accepting than mine ever was.

I think she'll be all right.


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  1. Wow! Good for you! How were you able to not spill the beans? I don't think I could keep my mouth shut in that situation.

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    1. it wasn't all that hard Stana. I just didn't want to back track and I wanted to keep the focus on her not on me...

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