In today’s world, a young transitioner is unlikely to keep that identity hidden for long and they must learn to grapple with the everyday reminder that they are not welcome by everyone around them. Here is where your sense of yourself must come in and remind you that how people see you is not nearly as important as how you see yourself.
I wish I could tell you that there was a magic bullet to get you to that place of perfect peace but there isn’t. It is often an extended period of living in reflective thought where you finally escape the bonds of societal pressure and become yourself. The hardest aspect for me was considering how my friends, family and any prospective partner would view the way I am. But even that had to eventually melt away under the fatigue of living so many years trying to meet other's expectations.
Being transgender is no picnic and the only one who can help you through this reconciliation is yourself. No therapist, friend, priest or doctor will replace that meditative journey you must make entirely on your own.