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feeling sexy

Here are the results of a recent survey of genetic women:

“A new hairdo, walking in heels and a glowing tan are among the things that make a woman feel sexy. Freshly applied lipstick, newly-shaved legs and a little black dress also have a positive effect on the psyche”

Are you surprised? I’m not because it is exactly the same list that makes transgender women feel sexy.

For a long time the idea was pandered about that transsexualism was rooted exclusively in aberrant sexuality. But of course you cannot separate the sexuality from the individual because that forms part of their overall makeup and the fact that genetic and transsexual women overlap here surprises no one.

We should also add here that women aren't always thinking about sex and neither are transgender women.

Pre transition transsexuals would not readily admit they found these things sexy because they were afraid to be seen as perverted men in front of gatekeepers who understood nothing about their condition.

Today we know better.




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  1. Excellent point, Joanna. I had a short discussion about how, from time to time, I feel a small twinge of sexiness when, for example, feeling affirmed as myself, buying clothes, or, even feeling good in my own skin as I transition. Was this, I asked, something we should talk about? I went on to say that I don't "pursue" these feelings...

    Her advice? Use these feelings more as a confirmation that I'm on the right track. It's as if at those moments my psyche is telling me that my internal compass is in alignment with the direction I'm following.

    That conversation was very helpful for me. All too often I find myself second guessing myself: there's so often multiple considerations to our decisions and lives. I find my awareness of the positiveness of these feelings help settle my mind.

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  2. Understanding our condition is hard and most people still don't get it. At my age, I've given up expecting/hoping for understanding and just savor crumbs of support I get from close friends. I'll be dead before the general population becomes knowledgeable and welcoming.

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  3. Nice to know I'm normal in at least one way!

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  4. So thats what that feeling is, I feel sexy!
    Apart from the hairdo and tan, the rest (and more) apply.
    Even though the chances are rare and extremely short by ‘woman getting ready standards’, the journey and results give me a feeling of wellness, contentment and in sharper focus with myself.
    I also have this when I’m not ‘dolled up’, for a better expression, but not so often and intensive.
    [Ed: That ‘focus’ is because of constantly trying to keep balance on those heels of yours!]
    Ah! learned something else new about myself today..
    Abi x

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