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Think about it: the people most opposed to those who are transgender are either deeply ignorant on the subject or have an agenda. The rest of the population can be reasonably educated over time but not everyone will buy that we are not a social movement hell bent on destroying society.

My experience with the kinds of reasonable and educated people I either work with or frequent as friends is that they are generally supportive even if they cannot relate. Even my religious brother, who I had a conversation with not that long ago, understood that one cannot paddle upstream forever and that whatever the cause of my dysphoria it deserves to be treated. When I mentioned that I was weighing social transition he understood and whatever I needed to do was up to me. My 82-year-old mother is much the same although perhaps a little more reticent. In the end, she concedes that she wants to see me happy and that is what counts most.

I have not decided anything yet but it is good to know that I will have support in places where previously I wasn’t all that sure.

We often tend to be our own worst enemies.


  1. *sigh* Of course I wish you the best so please take this comment as supportive. My perspective on this subject differs: whereas you seem, by your language and ideas, to internalize the "problem," I don't. I don't believe we are a problem at all. The fact that society doesn't accept or welcome us is not our fault; it is society's. Or, more precisely, current society in this location. Other societies in other places and at other times have been more understanding.

    That said, I certainly recognize and sympathize with the challenges we all face, especially someone as courageous as you attempting social transition. I don't blame us for the existence of those challenges. Probably because of estrangement I felt early in life, I mentally live separate from unaccepting views of others.

    Happy holidays.

    1. Ally you need to live in your own headspace on this or you will literally go mad. I think you have it right when you say that "it is society's problem".

      Happy Holidays to you as well!

    2. For me, society’s problem became my parents’ problem, became my problem. I’m 61 and having met with several trans kids of 15 or less seems to inform me that this chain is broken or otherwise crumbling with rust.

      But, with respect to my problem we must admit that we cannot control others, only (perhaps, it’s hard) ourselves, And given that the today’s societal problem is deteriorating (slow as it is), “my problem” is the one I’m prioritizing. That said, I believe that my visibility in public contributes to helping the societal problem as a result of my being unashamedly visible.

    3. Your visibility is nothing short of pivotal Emma 😊


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