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to wear or not to wear

I know my friend Sherry will admonish me for saying this because she wears them, but I have never liked pantyhose or stockings.

I used to wear them when I was young and had to cover up leg hair that I wanted to conceal but my legs have been smooth for years and I like the look and the feel of going out in bare legs. Besides, my pumps tend to slip out more easily when I wear any kind of stocking. Bottom line: I don't like the feeling.

I was reading up on fashion advice on this issue and the consensus seemed to be that you should do what you are comfortable with provided your legs don’t look uneven with discolorations or have rough patchy skin. In my opinion, a tanning cream can take care of much of this issue.

It seems that women under 40 are the ones who most prefer to leave the stockings at home but even in this age range there are some that swear by them which only proves how much of a personal issue it has become. In my office it seems to run about the same although many women just wear pants.

I say just be yourself although I can see certain occasions where they are definitely required in more formal situations.


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  1. Of course everyone should decide for themselves whether to endure the undeniable discomfort of pantyhose and stockings. I love them because of how they improve the appearance of my legs and the association I made between them and femininity early in my childhood (when women wore them more frequently). Young women tell me they're not willing to accept the discomfort.

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    1. I tried to like them and now young women tell me they are optional for them...

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  2. I like the look and feel of pantyhose and tights except for the waistband roll! But I don’t often wear them because I only wear dresses and skirts for relatively special occasions. I often wear leggings, though, especially when it’s chilly like today.

    As Ally said, I’m sure part of my attraction is due to what I associated with girls and women when I was a child. I well remember my envy of stirrup pants.

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