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the strange bedfellows

Discrimination against transgender people sometimes makes for strange bedfellows. Here for example, you will find radical feminists aligning with religious extremists to fight a common enemy which they describe as the dreaded “transgender agenda”; the one no one told me I was a part of when I was growing up.

Apparently, we are destroying the fabric of civilization by simply asking for tolerance and, by allowing 1% of the population some basic rights, is like admitting it is perfectly okay to be like us. This non-starter would amount to an admission destroying their basic platforms which rely heavily on us either being mental defectives or men deliberately trying to usurp the place of women. That neither position relies on logic or accurate information matters less than the dogma each party holds dear proving to what extent human nature relies on self-delusion.

Both these groups have a tendency to not talk to actual transgender people but prefer to make conclusions about our existence to drive home their points, which will typically involve dusting off Ray Blanchard's tired old pseudoscience as evidence of our depravity.

Fortunately for us, neither group holds much sway with the general population which is increasingly becoming educated on transgender issues and, as more trans kids come out and live authentic lives from the outset, you will see these people just go away and find other windmills to chase. Or at least one hopes.


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  1. Bigots have two basic traits -- Are and remain ignorant and refuse to objectively and calmly discuss the "subject" what ever that is.... Religious, political, military. academic or sexual differences of opinion. Marie

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    1. indeed Marie Anne you are unfortunately correct in this

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  2. For the peculiar sort absolutely certain they know the mind of god, I have little patience. However, I have tried to be less dismissive of feminist positions. It is not pure drivel to note the differences between trans women and non-trans women, nor is it without merit to preserve the understanding that being a non-trans woman is an experience unto itself.

    But when you stubbornly assert that the male body is itself the one and only enemy, and that trans women are clearly just male bodies out to undermine female ones to maintain the patriarchy and that any expression of femininity is merely an act of submission, we’ll, you might as well just assert that you have direct access tot the mind of god.

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    1. Caryn I wholeheartedly agree that it is right and just to point out the differences between cis and trans women and to dismiss outright any commonalities based purely on us having been born male makes light of the struggle we have faced our entire lives. They must clearly assume that we chose this path as an option where there was none to be had. This is my main problem with the TERFS and their lack of understanding.

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