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I have loads of fun complementing women on their clothes or shoes.

Invariably I will get a huge smile or earnest thank you and a little banter will result. I am not trying to get anything out of it but it's just part of the fun that comes from being a girl. I don't do it all the time just when the spirit moves me and I gauge it will be well received.

By this age my shyness filter is all but gone and very little makes me hesitate save for outing another trans person of course. Plus it's harmless and brings me and them a little sunshine into our day.

The latest episode involved me commenting on a woman's black Prada pumps. They must have been 4 inches high with the stiletto heel. I told her how nice they looked and how I admired her ability to walk in them

"Honey I've been living in these since I was 14" she said beaming a big smile at me

"You should get yourself a pair!"

Of course I was wearing my chunky heel pumps and pointed to them extolling their comfort but thanked her for her advice. Besides, a purchase that rich would make me feel guilty and leave me with serious foot damage. But damn they make your feet look pretty.

Still the exchange was a lot of fun.

Then there was the young Latina in the ladies room. We struck up a short very pleasant conversation while we were both applying our lip colour and before parting ways she said she was happy to have met me.

All I'm doing is being myself.

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  1. Regarding the pumps, a compliment from another woman is just that....a compliment. If I (presenting male) were to say this to a woman at work, it could be deemed harassment.

    Years ago, when I was in my 20's, I was out with a female sales rep. I was staring at her heels and she asked if I had a high heel fetish. Honestly, I was just admiring her shoes and how gracefully she walked in them, as any other woman would.

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    1. how absolutely true Calie :)

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    2. What I forgot to mention in my comment was that I totally get how the woman felt when I was looking at her pumps. I have been interested in style and fashion for as far back as I can remember. I was always checking out what the girls were wearing in school. It wasn't a problem in school but, in the working world, a glance at a woman by a trans presenting male as myself can be considered harassment, especially in a state like California (and I don't necessarily disagree with this). Checking out her outfit, no differently than any other woman might, can be interpreted as anything other than what was going on inside my head....simply admiring or even disagreeing with her style. It can be especially bad in the work environment for a manager (me) to be admiring the outfit of a 20 something when my age is a few decades beyond that. The assumption can often be "perv", or horny old man. For that reason, I keep my mouth shut and my eyes on anything other than the particular woman's outfit that my otherwise have caught my attention.

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    3. I think that is wise Calie but its a shame that a genuine comment would be misinterpreted like that. I was also taught to be very careful and when presenting male never compliment women on what they are wearing unless they know that I am trans which increasingly more and more of them do.

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