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This is how discrimination works: people who are already entitled feign some sort of injustice and complain that their own rights are being violated through granting others their own. It is vile and disgusting but it is unfortunately reality.

Black people must ride at the back of the bus, they must drink from their own water fountains. Today it is the transgender community facing much the same type of backlash. "We don’t want to see them and we don’t want them poisoning our normal children" is their message.

Transgender people don’t cause any harm to anyone and all they want is the right to self-determination and some basic respect but conservatives who think that they are part of a movement hell bent on destroying society are not going to allow them this indulgence. They may be losing the war but they keep fighting the battles and try to wreak havoc in hopes someone will listen.

This is the way human discrimination has always worked and whether the enemies are Jews, Blacks, Mexicans, Muslims and now trans people, the approach is very much the same; pretend that their very existence is an affront to your ability to lead your own life.

When you cannot get people to listen then invent falsehoods to fan the flames of hatred. Tell others how these people are sub-human, perverted or have a desire to undo what is decent and good about your society; how they will upset your way of life if they are allowed their dignity.

Most people are basically decent but there is always a segment of society ready to do battle against what is right and it is they who must be defeated. Right now, these people are being aided by the morally corrupt Trump administration but it won’t last. The inroads made by transgender people over the last 10 years are nothing short of remarkable and that will continue because once the cork comes off the bottle the progression cannot be stopped.

The proper laws and protections will be put into place and the mostly reasonable masses will adjust the way they adjusted to gay and lesbian people. They will do so because they really have no choice as we are not going back into the closet.

So kindly put down those pitchforks.



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