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love conquers all

This past week I had my third meeting with Halle this time in her neck of the woods and joined by her wife Kathy.

What else can I say other than they make a stable and committed couple who love each other. There is some interesting history there and at times they were like two ships passing in the night who manage to coincide at a later time.

I questioned Kathy a little bit because she is that one in a million who sees a person before she sees a gender. She is happy with her partner and you can see Halle has finally arrived at her destination.

It was a lovely lunch and the time flew by just as it did on the previous two occasions.

As a side note, that same morning I was in Ottawa's Byward Market having a coffee before our noon lunch date. The owner had a large photograph of Obama taken during his Canada visit; the caption read: I love this country. With tongue firmly in cheek I inquired with the owner if he planned to replace it with a Trump photo. Without a moment's hesitation he emphatically responded "Hell no!"

See you next time Halle and Kathy...

The Chateau Laurier

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