For all my life I did the opposite: try to fit into a premade box so that I could be accepted which was completely wrong. It is how I can feel so free today. There is no substitute for understanding what makes you tick even if that flies in the face of everything you have been taught.
Once you arrive there, the choices to transition or not become easier because they are made on your plain of existence and free of the angst of what will people think. It doesn’t matter what they think. A nice chunk of the world is composed of people who will be against anything you do no matter what that is.
The most important life lesson is to love yourself fully before accepting love from someone else. Yes, we can fix our flaws of course but what constitutes your core will not be changed and this is what must be absorbed and accepted without reservation.
It is what I have finally succeeded in doing and, if a hard headed person like me can, so can you.