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a classic look I like

For me there is simplicity and elegance in a long coat, classic black pumps accented with pearl earrings and necklace. I guess you could say it's almost timeless.

I don't wear this coat out often because it's a little too dressy for everyday use but it's not going anywhere either and will stay in my wardrobe.

Although I wasn't yet born, it takes me back in time to the 1950's when I put it on...


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  1. Well, I can speak as a woman who was born early in the 50's (I was born as a woman-to-be, anyway). My mother had a coat with a large velvet collar when I was about four or five. While she was driving, I loved to stand up from the seat behind her and feel the plush velvet on the back of the collar. If a five-year-old can have a fetish, I think I might have had a small one, anyway. Whatever the reason for my attraction to the coat, though, it couldn't have been worse than standing in a car, by today's standards!

    I've told this story elsewhere, so, briefly, I used to sneak my mother's car out of the garage in the middle of the night, starting at the age of 13. I often wore that same coat, which I also snuck out from the back of the hall closet, for my drives. She had stopped wearing it by then, but it suited me just fine. I guess, if I couldn't be a woman in the classic sense, I could still wear classic styles. Now, I am, if not a classic woman, a woman of some class....and a little sass. :-)

    The coat looks great on you!

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